
timecheck: 0204 hrs
christmas is nearing.
i need some eye shut.
i am lethargic.
and i need to get a bit of work done.
meanwhile something i thought would be useful
Burrel's Six Essential Secrets For "Flowing" Relationships
1. Stop competing with each other! Good relationships are all about being on the same side.
What's the purpose in scoring all those points? Sure you may cross the finish line first today, and maybe tomorrow as well. But you'll be all alone when you do, and if you carry on this way, eventually you may not have anyone left in your life to compete with! So stop competing; stop player-hating; start concentrating on crossing that finish line as part of a winning team.
2. Listen, communicate and hear! One of my favorite parts of my great relationship period, is to sit and chat with my wife. We talk about big stuff, and small stuff; share plans and pains, and each of us engages with what the other is saying. We never use silence as a weapon, and we never go to bed mad. Master the simple art of real conversation, and your relationship is halfway home!
3. Understand a relationship is not about "ownership." This is probably the most common personal problem I come across. Possessiveness and jealousy are two of the most destructive of all human forces. Very few relationships will survive the poison of this twin-horned devil. Let it go